Chatting Up Girls: Don't Be a Nice Fool!

Being too nice to girls is arguably the very worst mistake unexperienced guys do. "I've met this guy. He's really nice ... but I just don't feel any chemistry there!" Girls say things like that all the time. Have you ever wondered why?

I haven't been born as a guy who just knows how to attract girls. In fact, until about a year ago, I was totally clueless. I spent 3 years in a relationship with a girl I met when I was 18 and when we broke up, I had no idea how to get another one.

After I failed spectaculously with a girl I cared about really much, I decided this must stop. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to get this part of my life in order. Day by day I've been trying various ways how to approach girls, how to make them laugh and how to seduce them.

First few months were pretty much a disaster. But I persisted and kept learning and at some point something has changed: I got results. Girls started to like me not just as a friend. Random girls in the Tube started giving me an eye. I didn't have to do much to get their attention. At the time I could say it's good enough and settle for that, but I didn't.

Eventually I realised once you get how it works with girls, you're sorted! If you keep to few key rules and if you don't do any of major screw-ups, you have very high likelihood of success. I know, it sounds like total rubbish, but trust me, it's that simple! Even better, in this and following posts I'm going to share these rules with you!

Ready? Let's Get Cracking!

Girls simply aren't attracted to these "nice" guys, fullstop. Being too nice is a sure ticket to Letsbefriendsville. Girls do enjoy drama. If you're too nice, she won't feel any tension and excitement. You're predictable, hence boring. She wants you to be daring. Bold. Unpredictable. To be a man.

She isn't a princess in white dress. She's a human from meat and bones. Damn well-formed piece of meat may be, but still: you have to think about her as about equal. Don't look for her approval. And for fuck sake, don't ask her what does she think about you!

This is just a warm-up! Next time I'm going to talk about escalating the sexual tension, recognising when you can kiss her and how can you take it from there. Don't miss it and subscribe to my RSS!

Forget Presents and Flowers!

Until she's in love with you and you're in a relationship, do not, and I mean DO NOT buy her any presents! No presents, no flowers. Nothing of any bigger value. Do not pay for her meals. In most cases it's OK to pay for her drink, but not always. Social rules won't get you laid – not even in England.

I can't repeat enough how important it is. You not only show her your insecurity "Will she like me if I don't get her any flowers?", but even worse, she will likely to feel manipulated! "She has bought me this, he expect something." Ask yourself, how would you feel about it?

Advanced stuff: You can pick some flowers you spot on your date or give her something cute-but-worthless. It shows your spontaneity. But it depends on how is it all going and you must always watch your face! Never give anything to her with "oh I like you so much" face! Do it once and you can be out of the game, trust me!

Hell, I wish someone would tell me this two years ago ...

I'm really passionate about this topic! I want to help people who don't have this handled yet. Therefore until the end of 2011 I'm giving free consultations over e-mail, Skype or face to face for Londoners! Just drop me an e-mail saying "Hey dude, help me with girls please!" and I'll get back to you ASAP!

Do NOT Flatter Her!

Do not tell her that she's beautiful! That's a cheap flattering applicable to pretty much any girl and by telling that you're basically saying you didn't even bother to notice what's interesting about her.

Every now and then you can compliment her. Tell her that you like that she is not afraid being herself, that you like the energic way she walks etc. Show her that you can notice details.

If she's really hot, don't bother complimenting her look. Everyone's doing that. Find something in her behaviour you like and compliment it. Show her that good looks is not enough to impress you.

Show Her That You Know Your Value!

You have a certain value and she must see you are aware of it. Girls perfectly understand this, so they often play hard to get. Think for a moment: how does it make you feel? It makes you want her even more, doesn't it? See?

BE Cheeky to Her!

Taking the piss out of her is definitely allowed! In fact, if you do it right, it can really turn her on! Just carefully about sensitive topics, never make fun of her insecurities or beliefs!

How Did It Affect My Life?

I've been with a lot of gorgeous girls since then. For instance a really beatiful Korean girl I met in Barcelona. She was really shy. We went for a breakfast, then a walk and we ended up doing it in Montjuïc park. It wasn't even a date and she was even so shy that she wasn't comfortable with kissing in public at the beginning^[1]!

So it did affect me a lot! I feel so much better and happier today! I resolved my fear over not being able to get a girl and furthermore I developed confidence and of course I really do enjoy company of beautiful and interesting girls! So do subscribe to my RSS if you are interested in more advanced stuff I found out about chatting up girls!

[1] Asian girls often have an issue with kissing in public, but don't worry, it's not that hard to work around it!

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